Some girl from yahoo answers had a cool question. Now, its obvious she’s taking about guys who haven’t taken my secret quiz, but ignore that, and focus on her question, and how I answer it.

Question:

Im female dont let the avatar fool you…

If me and some friends go out the only guys brave enough to approach us are the most ghetto guys on the planet. And we aren’t ghetto females…we all work, go to school and some have families. We dont dress like hoochies either

Do ghetto guys have more confidence or something? They are the only ones brave enough to approach women

Answer:

Well, some sensitive folks aren’t going to like how you phrased the question, but I know EXACTLY why you mean. This is true in any modern country, in any group. Ever notice how the respectful, polite, good guys don’t approach women and stand in the corner, and its the loudmouth disrespectful guys who always seem to approach?

The reason for this is something called misandry that our western society has been going through for a few decades. Men have been shamed, guilted, attacked and called all kinds of names as a gender. Look at whole sexual-harassment mess. Men are being taught to fear and be ashamed of their own sexuality and interest in women. So the kinds of guys who LIKE and RESPECT women are also the ones who don’t want to offend women, so they stay back and don’t approach. Why? Because we’ve been taught that’s intrusive, jerky, perverted etc… And these respective guys, when they do eventually approach a woman, no matter how respective get shut down and slammed with a cold-rejection… so they decide to never do it again.

The guys who GENUINELY disrespect and don’t care about women, are also the ones who don’t care about whether an approach is disrespectful, so they’re the ones who always approach. That’s why most guys who approach women are of the disrespectful variety. Unfortunately, the same women who created the problem (man-bashing special interest groups that I won’t name) are now instead of acknowledging the problem, bashing men even more. They’re calling the respectful guys “wimps” and investing theories such as “nice guys are intimidated of  strong, independent women”… No we’re not, we’ve just been taught by YOU that so much as being interest in a woman is disrespectful and potentially sexual harassment. In fact, we respect and like women so much that we’d rather err on the side of not approaching when you’re interested, rather than “disrespecting you” by approaching when you’re not interested. Its time those groups took credit for causing the issue and overstating the case and creating legions of good guys who don’t approach women.

NOW, if you are a guy reading this, do note what things are from a woman perspective, and see how it makes things clear for you, you can now better understand why women react how they react when approached and why you’ve feared approaching them most of your life. It also explains why most women end up with jerks. They are the only ones approaching them! She’s basically most of the time choosing between one jerk or another.

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