How Do I Approach A Woman? Women Answers Mostly Please?

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I am a young man and have never dated and I am a little unsure how to approach women. I am a Christian and I want to try to initiate conversations in a respectful manner. Where am I most likely to find true Christian women and how do they like to be approached? How do you know if a woman wants to be approached?

My quick answer to this question:

A few questions in here, so I’ll answer them one by one… one at a time…

1) How do you know a woman wants to be approached -> Contrary to popular belief amongst women, we have no clue when a woman wants to be approached. Its an irony, most women think they’re obvious when they’re giving “approach me” signals, but have no idea how hard that is from the male side of things. The reason for this today is that women are SOOOO different. One woman smiles, another doesn’t… One thinks its clear she only wants to be approached when she’s smiling, another thinks its clear she wants an approach even if she’s not smiling. One thinks standing 2 feet from you is a clear sign of her wanting to be approached, another woman just stands that way with everyone. Some women are touchy feely by nature, whereas other women use touchy-feeliness to signal “i like you, ask me out”. And some women actually believe that if you’re a real man you should approach her with no signals!! Its a confusing jungle out there!!

So what’s the solution here? There are two solutions.

- Solution number one is to make things super easy for her to show super-clear interest. You do this by befriending her first, approaching her for social reasons, and inviting her out as a friend, and giving her a chance to show more clear, undeniable interest… which if she’s interested, she’ll definetely show… then make a move.
- Solution number two is to approach women regardless if you know if they’re interested or not… but do it in a such respectful manner where she appreciates the approach even if she’s not interested.

A friend I have does it something like this “Hi, I saw you from over there, and thought you looked interesting. I wanted to introduce myself. I am in a kind of a hurry, but if you’re interested in something more, here is my card and we can talk”. If the girl is interested she will offer up her card in exchange.

The beauty of this approach is that you’re being respectful, flattering and you’re not pushy. You’re making it perfectly ok for her to say no. You’re not pushing her into a yes… and moving on your own merry way.

2) Where to meet christian women

Well… if you want to guarantee that, obviously in church, seminars on the topic, different organizations regarding that religion etc… etc.. Or, alternatively, you don’t have to limit yourself to only meeting christian women. Hear me out… I’m not saying start dating non-christian women. I’m saying its perfectly ok to befriend and meet a lot of attractive women, and not lead with your religion. Non-christian women have christian female friends… so, you never know who they’ll introduce you to.

So don’t be so intent on rushing to the end goal (date a christian girl)… Just meet whomever you like and respect to where you have a big circle of cool, attractive female friends, and when some of those end up being in tune with your beliefs. then take it further with just those… or ask the others if they have cute christian friends.

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