Here is another cool question from yahoo answers. Check it out and see if it resonates with you.
I frequent coffee shops and go to Barnes & Noble often. Usually, I will see beautiful young women at these places, seated at tables there. How do I approach them to start a conversation without appearing creepy? What do I say to them? What do I talk to them about? I would especially appreciate answers from women. I want to meet single women, but do not want to offend them or appear creepy.
My opinion… is that… YOU HAVEN’T TAKEN MY QUIZ, YOU DONT GET IT… Lol…
1) How do you approach women without appearing creepy? Easy. Just DONT BE CREEPY.Ok… that sounded kind of like a wise-ass answer right? But its true, and here’s what it means. Creepiness is a state, not an action. Its not what you do or say, its who you are, your overall demeanor and appearance (body-language, voice tonality, timing).
So what makes a guy creepy? Desperation. Its that simple. Wanting something from her, makes you come across as creepy. If your only goal is to JUST genuinelly get to know her, and give her a chance to get to know you, you will automatically not appear creepy. So kill off the desperation, and desperately needing something from her, and you’ll have no problem.
2) What do you say to them? The truth. “I saw you over here, and you seemed interesting, I thought I’d come over and introduce myself. If you’re not in the mood, I apologize for taking your time”. Be respectful, courteous, and understanding. The media and feminazis fill her head with paranoid thoughts and fear of random men, so she needs some reassurance when you talk to her.
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You have to start by asking them some lame question…like “Hey, do you know where the non fiction is”…and then try to segway into a conversation. Or if you see that they are reading something interesting or you know of, talk to them about it! Just look for something interesting to say relevant to the situation…that way you don’t look creepy. Try to seem confident and carefree, like you’re not trying to do it on purpose.
Barnes and Noble is great because books are an easy topic to share.
Mutual enjoyment of a book is a great way to start a relationship. Try to find someone in the ares where books you enjoy are located and strike up a conversation.
For example, i like msteries so i would say
“How bought that Agatha Christie?” (careful which author you choose, she may not know it and then its not so good)
and then just flow from there, either she warms up to you and the two of you ahve a spark, or she brushes you off and she isnt for you
coffee shop? tuff environment… I say get them to come to you. Read the hottest book from Opras book club and see if you get approached, dropp something beside a woman and act real embarassed and shy… us woman like the nerdy shy types.
woman are alot easier to aproach then men think, if something embarrassing happens we are intently thinking ” could this be one of those funny events I tell me future children? ”
be honest is the most pleasing… a man out of no where saying ” I am intriuged by you” to another woman is very inviting. but yes you need content to keep it going, so ask lots of questions about her and her life……a woman will always test a man to see if he has been truly listening so you must remember all the things she says… dont try to just remember…..picture the story as she tells it and you will remember… if you can listen to a woman you are already on you way to being the next don juan.
putting up with us is the hardest part and we know it. so we need to be sure we dont waist too much time on men that just wont work out. for their sake and ours.
you have to drop same thing near to her, ho i’m sorry thin you start conversation.it is so easy .