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Does this sound like you?

You’re not alone here as daytime approaching can be the hardest yet most rewarding skill you can master with a bit persistence and practice.

And that’s the beauty of it! I’m not pulling your chain here you can master this and once you do imagine the freedom of choice you have to approach women anytime whether night or day, anywhere and have the courage to take it somewhere further like on a instant date, or maybe just get a phone number it’s entirely up to you.

So the first step is to head to a busy shopping mall or daytime tourist spot to practice. This is key as there’s no point heading out to an abandoned or half empty public place if there’s no one to practice on is there?

If you do this then you could be unconsciously making excuses not to approach and thereby making it harder for yourself. There’s no advantage here I can tell you now as I used to do the same. This makes approaching women during the daytime so much harder and it puts the undue pressure on you to approach people but there are none! So you end up beating yourself up.

So make sure you’re in a busy public area with plenty of attractive women around. Now you’re ready to make some history let’s work on your conversation starter. I like to use an opinion opener during the daytime to stop women but not any ordinary opinion opener as sometimes it can be un-calibrated to ask a random opinion in a public place, so it helps if the opinion opener is situational i.e. something to do with shopping or something she’s wearing. Make sure your opinion opener is tested and works.

Lastly don’t have an objective when you’re practicing this and just starting to learn day game and approaching women during the daytime. Because if you were to have an agenda she will realize it and you may discover her asking you questions like “Why are you asking me this?” etc or even worse she may think you’re trying to sell her something. Focus on chatting and having a genuine conversation as opposed to the former.

So In summary for approaching women during the daytime and overcoming your fear you need to follow these three simple steps:

Find a public place where there are plenty of attractive women around to practice on (this is the most important step!)

Have a solid conversation starter ready to say. Always have this ready and prepared (this is the second most important step to day game!)

Focus on having a normal conversation and NOT having an agenda.

Some girl from yahoo answers had a cool question. Now, its obvious she’s taking about guys who haven’t taken my secret quiz, but ignore that, and focus on her question, and how I answer it.

Question: Im female dont let the avatar fool you…

If me and some friends go out the only guys brave enough to approach us are the most ghetto guys on the planet. And we aren’t ghetto females…we all work, go to school and some have families. We dont dress like hoochies either

Do ghetto guys have more confidence or something? They are the only ones brave enough to approach women

Answer:

Well, some sensitive folks aren’t going to like how you phrased the question, but I know EXACTLY why you mean. This is true in any modern country, in any group. Ever notice how the respectful, polite, good guys don’t approach women and stand in the corner, and its the loudmouth disrespectful guys who always seem to approach?

The reason for this is something called misandry that our western society has been going through for a few decades. Men have been shamed, guilted, attacked and called all kinds of names as a gender. Look at whole sexual-harassment mess. Men are being taught to fear and be ashamed of their own sexuality and interest in women. So the kinds of guys who LIKE and RESPECT women are also the ones who don’t want to offend women, so they stay back and don’t approach. Why? Because we’ve been taught that’s intrusive, jerky, perverted etc… And these respective guys, when they do eventually approach a woman, no matter how respective get shut down and slammed with a cold-rejection… so they decide to never do it again.

The guys who GENUINELY disrespect and don’t care about women, are also the ones who don’t care about whether an approach is disrespectful, so they’re the ones who always approach. That’s why most guys who approach women are of the disrespectful variety. Unfortunately, the same women who created the problem (man-bashing special interest groups that I won’t name) are now instead of acknowledging the problem, bashing men even more. They’re calling the respectful guys “wimps” and investing theories such as “nice guys are intimidated of  strong, independent women”… No we’re not, we’ve just been taught by YOU that so much as being interest in a woman is disrespectful and potentially sexual harassment. In fact, we respect and like women so much that we’d rather err on the side of not approaching when you’re interested, rather than “disrespecting you” by approaching when you’re not interested. Its time those groups took credit for causing the issue and overstating the case and creating legions of good guys who don’t approach women.

NOW, if you are a guy reading this, do note what things are from a woman perspective, and see how it makes things clear for you, you can now better understand why women react how they react when approached and why you’ve feared approaching them most of your life. It also explains why most women end up with jerks. They are the only ones approaching them! She’s basically most of the time choosing between one jerk or another.

Here is a nice article by some guy who obviously hasnt taken my secret quiz. The article is ok, it has some good points, and you might find it useful if you have already taken the quiz yourself.

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One of the hardest things about attracting women is to becoming comfortable with approaching them.

If you’re like most men, just THINKING about walking up to a woman and initiating a conversation can be quite terrifying.

So what should you do?

It’s simple- the best way to learn how to approach women is to APPROACH THEM!

Yes, I know it sounds simple. But many guys don’t ever take that first step. All they do is stress out over what to say or try learning the ‘perfect’ routine. Instead of memorizing routines or reading tons of books, you’ll get the best results by practicing your approaches.

Here’s why…

Think of when you were in your high school Driver’s Education class trying to learn how to drive an automobile. For hours the teacher would drone on about safety and the rules of the road. After awhile you thought you knew everything about driving until you got behind the wheel.

Then you suddenly realized that driving was A LOT harder then you thought. At first you were nervous, but eventually you learned how to drive really well (Hopefully).

Learning how to approach women is the same thing!

It’s a skill that can be only learned through repetitive experiences. If you approach enough women, you’ll start to learn what works and what doesn’t.

Now I know you’re probably nervous about the thought of being rejected or laughed at. If so, I’ll let you on a little secret…

Every guy worries about this! Anybody who tells you different is lying to you.

Don’t look at rejection as a bad thing. Instead think of it as a learning experience that will help you grow as a man. By being rejected you’ll start to learn what DOESN’T work. Eventually you’ll stumble on techniques which WILL work. Then being rejected will be worth it.

So when should you start approaching women?

The answer is NOW!

As I mentioned at the beginning of this article, guys waste too much of their valuable time sitting around learning how to succeed of women instead of trying out these theories themselves.

So I urge you to try to approach at least a few girls a day. You can ask them for the time, compliment them on something they’re wearing or ask them a question. No matter what you say, just get out there and try something!

If you still can’t think of what to say when you approach a woman, write some ideas down beforehand.

Bottom line- If you train yourself to approach multiple women in EVERY day, you’ll start to develop your skills at attracting women and will virtually eliminate your fear of rejection.

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The internet is full of tips on approaching women. You can get advice on anything from how to get laid to how to meet your future wife. Unfortunately, most of these tips don’t work. Why?

Because hey are written by men who have no clues as to what women want.
A lot of these guys aren’t even good with women; they are thirty or forty something single guyshose knowledge of women comes from the internet and television.

Granted, some of these guys are better than others, but even the ones that might have had some success in getting laid (or even getting married), don’t really understand how women work. They might have had some success using a certain pickup line or attitude when approaching women and they assume that’s what got the hall pass, but really, they have no clue.

Most women make up their mind within seconds of seeing you as to whether or not they would consider sleeping with you. This doesn’t mean that you are in if her answer is yes, it means that she would consider it, and if you play your cards right you might have a chance.

It is a misconception that women are just being difficult or coy when they are picking their mate.

In fact, women are just true to their physical and emotional responses when they choose who they want to be with.

Even if a woman is just looking for a bit of fun, she is still likely to choose a guy that she could see herself date. Keep this in mind when you are approaching women. You need to connect with her at least somewhat on an intellectual and emotional level as well as the physical.
Those first few seconds when women do their initial evaluation of you, they are interpreting all these signals that you re not even aware of sending out. Women are not as visual as men, they of course like men to bee good looking, but how you look to them is largely determined by how you feel about yourself. Almost every woman I’ve ever known has at some point thrown all her preconceived ideas of what kind of guy she’s attracted to overboard because she met some guy that didn’t fit her requirements at all but still somehow made her knees wobble.

Approaching women successfully starts with you. I know you’ve heard it all before, but it largely comes down to confidence. By confidence, I don’t mean arrogance; being overly cocky can easily turn a woman off you. True confidence, the one that women love and look for is the subtle one. You don’t even have to do much; it not about showing off, it’s about how you feel in your own skin.

Next to good personal hygiene, and taking basic care of how you look, the best way to become good at approaching women is by working on yourself; build your confidence and learn to really like and appreciate yourself and women will too.

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I have a buddy who will under no circumstances approach a woman he doesn’t know. It doesn’t matter if she’s making direct eye contact and sending him a “come seduce me” smile. He’s absolutely scared to death of making cold approaches. If you share his philosophy of fear, then you’re missing out on a lot of opportunities. It’s your job as a male to approach women and to show interest first.

Think for a moment about how you feel if a perfect stranger compliments you. Have you ever had a woman smile and approach you out of the blue? Ever had a carload of girls drive by when you’re jogging and scream at you approvingly? It makes you feel great doesn’t it? It doesn’t even matter if she’s hot or not. If a woman shows interest in you, then you feel great inside.

That’s exactly how women feel. It doesn’t matter if they’re not attracted to you. It doesn’t matter if you say something stupid. If you approach a woman she’ll be genuinely flattered by the attention you’re giving her.

Of course if you approach them in a threatening or creepy manner, they’re not going to appreciate meeting you. On the other hand, if you go up to them in a good natured way and say something halfway pleasant, they’ll love it.

Why do you think women spend hours doing their hair and nails? Why do you think the girl at the mall is wearing a miniskirt that shows off her shapely legs? They do that stuff for you! Women WANT men to appreciate their beauty. They crave the attention. Your attention affirms their sexuality.

So what have you got to lose? You want to meet hot women. Hot women want to be admired. What’s the problem here?

So what if you approach a group of girls and say something stupid? They might laugh at you? WHO CARES?! Being laughed at never killed anyone and it helps you to grow thicker skin. The worst thing that can happen is that you won’t get their phone number, which you never had in the first place. So how is being rejected by a total stranger a bad thing?

They don’t know you so they’re not rejecting who you are inside. They don’t know what qualities you possess, or the many skills you have. They don’t truly know who you are so their rejection means nothing.

Granted, at first it can be hard to gather the courage to blindly walk up to hot women. You may stutter, say something stupid, or words may not come out at all. Always keep in mind what the worst thing that can happen is if you fail. NOTHING!

Successfully approaching hot women is a numbers game. At first you’ll experience a disproportionate number of rejections. But as you gain confidence you’ll be rejected less and less often and your successes will increase dramatically. Eventually you’ll simply stop caring and the nervousness will go away.

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The first 30 seconds: 10 mistakes almost every guy makes

As a veteran pickup coach, I’ve seen it all.

I’ve seen guys who were short, scrawny, and nerdy-looking walk into a club and leave with the hottest girl in the place.

I’ve seen good-looking, confident guys freeze up when I told them to approach, and then hide from me the rest of the night!

What I want to talk about today are the common mistakes I see when guys approach women.

Those first thirty seconds of conversation with a woman are crucial, and one mistake can ruin your chances of getting anywhere with her.

Now not every approach is going to be perfect – in fact NO approach will ever be, so give up on trying to be perfect.

One thing I always tell guys is that I’m not the most fancy pickup artist, but I do the basics EXTREMELY well.

But what are these basics?

I know how confusing it can be when you read all the material out there – from books, to forum posts, to seminars…

Sometimes I think average guys have it easy because they don’t know how ignorant they are!

Guys who are trying to get better with women often suffer from paralysis of analysis – they have TOO MUCH information.

This can lead to all sorts of problems – the main one being that they don’t take action.

I know how that feels, believe me.

I struggled for a long time with too much information.

And then I let it all go, and had to start my journey all over again, learning completely on my own.

But you know what? I’m glad I did.

And now I feel it’s not only a great way to make a living, it’s my RESPONSIBILITY to share what I’ve learned with guys who are struggling in this arena.

So let me give you a rundown of the 10 most common mistakes I see guys making when they first approach a woman – and this isn’t just students – this applies to regular guys I observe when I go out.

1. He gives her a lame compliment

This is how most guys open – they say something typical, generic, and overly-approving, like

“You’re hot” or “you’re so beautiful” or “you’re the hottest girl I’ve ever seen.”

Now don’t get me wrong, I like to be direct, and I like giving women compliments.

But I make it specific, and I talk more about myself and what I think, rather than “what she is.”

For example, “that’s some laugh you got there…I heard you from across the bar.”

2. He does her a favor, like buying her a drink

The most common thing guys do is offer to buy a woman a drink.

The only time I’ll do this is if I’m getting a round for my buddies, and there’s a woman I want to meet close by – I’ll get her one too.

This is fun, social, and is not too approval-seeking, since I’m already spending money on my friends.

Guys will usually do some kind of favor for a woman, like giving up their chair, or buying her a drink, taking a picture of her.

I REFUSE to take pictures, unless I’m in them.

You don’t want to be serving and appeasing her, EVER. Especially in the first 30 seconds.

3. He approaches from a bad angle, or speaking too quietly

These two might seem different, but they are really flip-sides of the same coing:

You are afraid of making your presence felt.

What kind of message do you think that sends to a woman?

The WRONG one – primarily that you lack self-esteem and you probably suck in bed.

Walk right up to her and speak loudly – make her feel you!

4. He has bad eye contact

Some guys really struggle with eye contact, but it’s one of the main things women look for.

A man who can look her in the eye and not flinch is essentially saying,

“I’m not afraid of you – I’m interested in you. I am offering something wonderful to you, and I fully intend on giving it to you if you want it.”

5. He’s drunk and sloppy

There’s kind of a double standard here.

Women often get really drunk and sloppy when they go out.

But if a drunk guy approaches them, he’s toaster strudel.

It just looks bad when a man is out of control of himself – and this is exactly the main purpose alcohol serves – to make you lose self-control.

6. He doesn’t own his space

This is a really subtle sticking but a LOT of guys have it.

When you stand or sit, you want to own your space, meaning you don’t want to confine your body to accommodate others.

Acquiescing to others physically is a sure-fire way to show a woman that you are scared, weak, and insecure.

You don’t have to sit with your arms spread out, or stand like a military sergeant.

You should be physically comfortable, and not hold your body in to accommodate other people – especially other guys.

7. He stalls out because he’s trying to say the right thing

This is HUGE – the most common mistake guys make.

I harp on this in just about every newsletter, but I can’t say it enough…

Women are screening for one thing – are you trying to say the right thing to GET something from her?

They can tell so easily, because it’s the main thing they are looking for.

And guess what – this focus does NOT serve you.

Not only does it make you look like you’re trying to get something (getting in bed) from her, it also stops your mind from flowing.

Here’s why.

We don’t even know what’s on the mind of the another person.

So when you try to say the right thing, you’re second-guessing what that person wants to hear.

It’s almost always impossible, and will only stump you.

Stop trying to be smooth and say the right thing!

8. He doesn’t address her friends

A woman’s friends take top priority, at first.

Woman usually have lots of very fickle, short-lived friendships.

One second they’ll declare “this is my GIRL! I LOVE her!”

The next day, it’s “oh my god she’s such a bitch, I’m over it.”

But in front of a guy she’s just met, she has to put her friends first.

And if you try to talk to her without at least acknowledging her friends and being friendly to them, you’ll look anti-social, and uncalibrated.

It will make everything awkward, and most likely her friends will drag her away.

9. He asks for her number too soon

A lot of times, guys will want to eject from the conversation because they don’t what else to talk about.

So they will just go for the number before it’s really appropriate.

I think of GIVING my phone number as a REWARD to her.

If she impresses me, I’ll decide that I like her enough to give her a call.

But you have to give her time to impress you – at least get her to express herself in some way that you can approve her for.

Theres one more piece here…

Don’t walk off right after she gives you her number – it makes you look like a player.

Talk about something you could do together, or just shoot the shit a little longer, then go back to your friends, or leave the venue.

10. He doesn’t touch her

What do you want with this woman?

A intimate relationship!

So move in that direction from the start.

I won’t get too much into it here.

That’s all for now, talk to you soon.

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Learning to meet women is possibly the most essential part of dating. Why is this? Its simple – if you never learn how to meet women, you will never get a date, have a relationship, have sex or get married. Its like learning to crawl before you learn to walk – learn the art of approaching women and your dating life will have a one hundred percent turn around.

So what are the keys to learning to meet women successfully? Some of the essential components include learning to read the female body language in order to gauge whether or not your approach is likely to be successful, training your own inner game to relay confidence, ways to promote conversation, how to use flirtation to augment attraction – to name a few.

The first key – learning to read the female body language – is especially important and is possibly one of the simplest things to learn. Many men over the years have realized that women tend to say one thing and mean another. This is not necessarily an attempt at deception – in fact, it is generally done out of complete ignorance of the true source of her own feelings. For instance – a woman may say she likes men who are tall. You are only 5′4″ – but don’t count yourself out. Why does she like tall men? Not necessarily because they have to duck to get in the car. It could be that tall men make her feel safe and protected. At 5′4″, can you do the same? Of course you can. Pay attention to her body language to find out what it is she wants.

On great way to get a glimpse of what a woman really wants is to pay attention to her eyes. Want a really simple way to see if a woman is open to an approach? Check out this little golden nugget:

The next time you go out, anywhere, make an effort to make eye contact with every attractive woman you see. I don’t mean fleeting eye contact, ducking your head with a nervous guffaw and turning away. Look into her eyes until she returns your gaze. When you have her attention and your eyes are locked, smile and raise your eyebrows at her.

If she smiles back, holds eye contact for a little longer, and looks away in that embarrassed manner that most women do when they start feeling attraction, then keeps looking back at you, guess what? She’s open to you meeting her!

On the other hand, if she displays no expression and looks away quickly, or of course displays some other disdainful expression or irritation, you would be wasting your time to approach her and get rejected.

Remember – learning to approach women will skyrocket your dating success, so quit being a wallflower and get out there and meet some girls today!

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Starting the relationship off the right way is one of the most critical steps in any relationship. It is true that first impressions do contribute significantly to the outcomes of any relationship. Thus, we need to make sure we always have the right start-off in our relationships.

To do that, any man has to learn the art of approaching. Approaching is art and not science. Why is it art? Simply because there isn’t a specific methodology of how it should work. Pick up artists today have their own unique ways of approaching women. Some of them will tell you to go and throw an interesting open ended question with your body language signaling that you are not very interested in the people you are addressing. Others will tell you to do this and that. In reality, the art of approaching has to evolve out of your unique persona in your unique way. It is something that you should figure on your own based on having the right mindsets of the charmer. The ugliest thing you could ever do to yourself is to learn some lines that others say to come off as interesting person to stranger. This is the essence of the ABN Philosophy

With that said, this art seems to be tough and even scary for many people. When you approach someone, as most people do, you probably put yourself in the frame of “approaching because I want something”. That’s far from what charmers would do. After all, we all take any action because of a certain motive, don’t we? Most men get rejected when they approach women because they come with the attitude of “I am approaching you because I want something from you” and women sense that right away and seldom get attracted to them.

Yet men go and approach while trying to disguise their underlying motive thinking it might work. When you approach someone with that attitude, it puts you in a weak and a needy position. Your subconscious mind knows that much more than you do. You start feeling nervous or hesitant about the approach and so you either don’t approach at all or you approach in a way that gets you rejected.

To excel at approaching, one has to work on one single element and that is your attitude and mental beliefs about your relationships and people. At the end of the day, everyone you know as of right now, was a stranger to you at some point in life. Even your mother and father were strangers to you. You had to go through the process of connecting with a stranger. What is stopping you from making other strangers as part of your social circle? How can you break any ice with strangers is the question? It is not about learning cheesy pick up lines and throwing them at others. It is not about learning the 3 second rule where you have to approach before your anxiety builds up. Taking life easy is the best way to approach and charm anyone.

One has to come from a different perspective to succeed at approaching others. In the Attractive By Nature Book, I discuss all the mind elements that the natural charmer has that makes him charm with ease.

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Why do men find it difficult to approach a woman to get to know her better?  The dating and relationship scene is probably one of the most complicated areas of life that we have as humans.  It is full of men who have the fear of making the first move to get to know the opposite sex, because they feel that their ego could be fractured.  But what these men fail to understand is that you have to commit and make that first move, or the opportunity will pass you by.

I have come up with seven tips that men can reference if they are want to make that first move on the woman of his dreams.  Remember that the woman that you will be approaching is human after all.  They are looking for a respectable, good man to get to know and have fun with.  That being said, lets get to my tips.

1)      Ditch your entourage.  This takes some of the pressure off you to perform.  Plus you do not want to have your friend witness this attempt if it goes bad.

2)      Step into the restroom and make sure that you look presentable.  When approaching a woman, the first thing that she will inspect in how you look.  Do you have good personal hygiene?  Is your shirt tucked in and are your clothes appropriate for the occasion or location.

3)      Work up the courage.  I really do not see the big deal in all the fuss with the dating scene.  Yeah, woman that you will be approaching is someone that you do not know.  But I think that is what you have going for you.  Succeed, and you get here number for the first date.  Fail, well you probably will not ever see her again.  There really isn’t anything to loss here.

4)      Think about what you are going to say for an introduction.  Do not use a corny first line.  “Hello, how are you tonight. My name is _________, what’s your’s?” will work a majority of the time.

5)      Walk on up to her, and introduce yourself.  Try to hold a conversation with her.  If she participates in the conversation, then she is into you.  But if she seems distant, then she is probably not interested in you.  It is best to cut your losses and bail.  The saying “There are other fish in the sea”, comes to mind.

6)      Keep eye contact.  Nothing says that you think she is boring when you let your eyes wonder around the room when you are having a conversation with her.  And nothing says animal when you let your eyes do the talking all over her body.  Keeping that eye contact is a good way to let her know that you are into her for her and not her body.

7)      Ask for her phone number.  This is an important tip.  You do not want all the work that you have gone through go to waist.

Approaching the woman for the first time can only be difficult if the man makes it that way.  Failure only comes if you do not try, and success will only come if you do try.  So go ahead and look around and pick a woman, who is alone, and go on over.  You will never know what’s going to happen if you just sit there and wonder about what might be.