By far the most important thing to making approaching easy, is your mindset and attitude. You see, I’ve spent years and years and years on learning everything I can on this subject, and today I can boil it down to just one simple little factor that I have found to be the most important. When you apply this one change-of-mind, approaching girls will be easy, effortless and cool. Not only that, but they will find you eerily attractive.

So what is this change of attitude and mindset that has such magical properties? Its called being “normal”. I didn’t mean to insult you there, but you see almost universally guys end up doing weird, nervous, pushy or stupid things to get girls. By far the easiest way to get a girl however is to turn off any goal inside your head. You don’t care about the date, you don’t care about the sex, any of that… Your only goal is “hey, that’s another human being, lets socialize”.

Now it might sound weird and counter-intuitive to you, but it actually works. What happens is that if you turn off any though outside of socializing, what will happen is that you will be smooth, suave and charming, and she will be turned on. Especially if she’s hot and every other guy has been hitting on her… you will stand out.

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Every single guy girl relationship starts as an encounter between two people. In almost every culture it is the man’s responsibility to start the interaction. So since you are the responsible for your love life it is better that you start learning how to jump start it. The easiest places to meet single women are bars and clubs. Of course women excuse themselves and say when they go to a club that they just want to dance. But secretly they are seeking a mate, don’t let them fool you. They can dance at pilates class also, but they don’t.

Almost every bar and club is full with single girls who are hoping to meet that guy. You could be that guy, but beware of her friends. Gorgeous girls have always many friends besides them, and their friends are often jealous of their looks. So they try to sabotage her friends chance for love.

Usually when a girl in a club or a bar sees a guy she wants to be with she sends him all kinds of subtle signals. The number one signal is standing close to a guy she likes. That way he can easily approach her. If that does not work girl will smile at a guy, look at him all the time and sometimes she will even start the conversation first. She will usually say something relating to the situation. Your mission is to get to know more about these subtle ways that girls show interest for guys. Actually it’s very easy to spot it, if you know what are you spotting..

When you develop these kind of skills you will easily pick the girls that are interested in you right from the start. No more tedious approaches and rejections. By knowing what girls are interested you have the upper hand and you did not even do anything. Use these girls signals to your advantage.

Some dude from yahoo answers had a cool question. Now, its obvious he hasnt taken my secret quiz, but ignore that, and focus on his question, and how I answer it.

Question:

Since a man can go to jail for approaching a woman for sex, then why are women exempt from doing the same? For example: A woman goes into a strip club and has sex with some of the male strippers. so what is the difference between women approaching men and men approaching women? why do men go to jail for it but not women?

My answer:

Very good point indeed. There also isn’t any law against raping a man. It’s how our society was made long time ago.

Up until a few decades ago, women were perceived as non-sexual being, used just for making babies. In our society, it’s okay for a man to express his sexual needs and be as needy as possible about. You can even see it on movies when a man says “Hey, I have my needs, you know!”. You never hear a woman say that. Women are not supposed to like sex in our society. That’s why you rarely hear of cases when a woman initiates sex with a man in an aggressive way.

Also, feminism has made it that every man is a potential rapist of women. This is why when girls look for dorms, they usually post the sign that they are specifically looking for a female companion.

If a woman approached you for sex, and if you told the police, she could easily turn it around that you tried to rape her!

Maybe all of this will change in a few decades, since some things have already changed in the past decades.

The first thing about approaching is that you should look at woman in a complimenting way. In a way that is showing to her that you are adoring her beauty. Don’t ever stare at a woman. Just softly gaze into her eyes. After that comes the talking part. After your introductory line you should find out more about her. Yes, ask her the all usual dumb questions. I don’t know why, but women love answering them. And that is a great thing for us guys.

When you are done with dumb interview-like questions ask her some deeper questions about herself. Direct the conversation towards her feeling and emotions, towards her likes and dislikes. Ask her about her favourite moments, memories.. If you have gotten this far into conversation, things should handle themselves. Just continue talking and later ask her when the two of you could meet for a drink.

Well that’s it, if you follow these simple steps approaching women should be no problem for you. Just be confident about yourself and your masculinity and you are definitely on the right track.

Some dude from yahoo answers had a cool question. Now, its obvious he hasnt taken my secret quiz, but ignore that, and focus on his question, and how I answer it.

Question:

approaching women…? I dont have a problem approaching women under what I call “comfortable” circumstances, which is usually, knowing the girl might be interested in me, or cold approaching if im feeling unusually confident (and the girl is on her own or just with another girlfriend). However, this has not aided me at all of late, as I am single…and HATING IT!…I want a relationship, and am just struggling to meet women who are prospects. Now, I often see girls out who are in the company of guys, maybe a guy they are dating maybe not, so my question is, How would you women react, if you was approached in a bar, and the guy you were with was maybe in the bathroom or something? (maybe hes a guy your dating, maybe not)…Would you give the stranger a chance, or disregard him completely? I mean, lets face it, MOST girls out there today know and hang around with guys, and therefore I never even consider talking to these girls, even if I may like them.

My answer:

I don’t understand one thing. You said you rarely approach women, and now you want to know how to approach women that are with guys.

Look, it is possible to approach a woman that’s with a guy like you mentioned, but it’s too much hassle. Why don’t you rather work on approaching women that are alone or with another girl? You will most commonly see girls that are either alone or with other girls. Focus on those targets. It’s much easier than with a guy. If she is with a guy, you never know who the guy is, and even if he is a friend, the girl might act differently than when she is alone. Alone are your best targets.

So, approach more women in those comfortable situations, like when she is already looking at you. You can also approach them cold, which is a little harder. You have so many options to choose before you choose to approach the one with the guy.

Some dude from yahoo answers had a cool question. Now, its obvious he hasnt taken my secret quiz, but ignore that, and focus on his question, and how I answer it.

Question:

How do you approach woman? if i see a girl that i like just say on the street how do i know she wants me to approach her and what intro should i use?

My answer:

Very good question. I get so many superficial questions on pickup lines, knowing that the guys who ask the questions don’t even have the courage to go and approach a stranger. Let this be a rule for all of you. If you can’t approach a woman with any line, then don’t ask for pickup lines, because your fear is your problem, not the line.

Now onto your question. First of all, most of the time women won’t give you signals that they want you to approach them. But, in order to maximize that, you have to look women you like in the eye directly and survive the pressure when you are looking at each other for some seconds and you are wanting to automatically turn away your look. But don’t! Don’t look away first, let her do it. Keep looking even though the tension is there.

Here is an easy rule for you: if she looks at you for more than a second, she likes you!

Now, onto the approach. So, even if you don’t manage to look each other in the eyes, you still go and approach her (if you like her of course). In daytime, you won’t get so many eye invitations from women.

To effectively approach her, you first have to stop her directly, this is the most important thing. You come in front of here slowly and with a smile you deliver a line like “Hey, excuse me, I was looking at you and I find you very attractive.” After that, you introduce yourself and then it’s all up to you.

Some dude from yahoo answers had a cool question. Now, its obvious he hasnt taken my secret quiz, but ignore that, and focus on his question, and how I answer it.

Question:

how to approach women just for a physical relationship? i get checked out by women all the time. when i approach them they lockup, get nervous,studder. some say they have a boyfriend.

anyway, how do i approach women just for a physical relationship, no strings attached? shall i just say do u want to come home with me?

My answer:

If you have the courage to do that, then certainly try it. Try it many times, since that kind of approach may have way more rejections than positive answers.

You sound like you have the confidence it takes to approach women. This is great, as you have gotten the hardest thing taken care of. Approaching women hasn’t much to do with getting into a sexual relationship.

You can continue to approach them like you already do. If they lock up, maybe you seem too confident. If that is the case, than just tone it down a little.

The crucial difference between getting into a normal relationship and a sexual relationship is the sex itself. If you want to get into a sexual relationship with her, you have to make sure that you sleep with her as soon as possible from when you meet her.

Some dude from yahoo answers had a cool question. Now, its obvious he hasnt taken my secret quiz, but ignore that, and focus on his question, and how I answer it.

Question:

Has anyone read the art of approaching by joseph matthews? Its a relationship E-Book, I was reading about it but I am not sure if it would be worth the .00. any one here read it or know about it? Is it worth the money?

My answer:

Actually, it’s not a relationship book. I have read it, and it’s totally not worth it. If you are a guy who is really not successful with women, then his openers in the book won’t help you at all. On the other hand, if you are already somewhat successful with women, you don’t need his book because it mostly contains ways that you can start conversations with women.

If you can’t start a conversation with a woman by saying “Hey, I’m John, and I would like to meet you”, then you have a problem with confidence. Address the symptom first (confidence), then the lines of what to say will come to you.

Joseph Matthews is not a guy who is particularly successful with women. He is only good at getting phone numbers and extracting a few dates from them. And you can do the same with much a much easier method, like the introduction above. Don’t get tricked by the methods of the Seduction Community. They all promise the same.

Men today are top level excuse makers. They will think of anything just so that they don’t have to approach a girl they like. They will lie to themselves that she is probably a bitch and that she will reject them. Any girl they see probably has a boyfriend or is completely asexual. Sure she is.

Get out of your mind prison and start approaching like a real man. Women today are sick tired of pussies, they crave for a real man that will take them without excuses. Don’t lie to yourself, women actually do want you. None of your excuses can’t change the simple biological fact that women love guys. Sorry, no more excuses. Since you have no more excuses here are some tips that should get you approaching…

Creepy is OK

I know that approaching is not of the most pleasing experiences in the world, but the payoff is. So when you approach try to be normal and don’t creep her out too much. Creeping a girl a little is a good thing. But don’t overdo it. After all you are approaching her to have sex with her, its supposed to be a little bit unpleasant. Enjoy that discomfort and ride it like a wave. Women love tension, and all tension between men and women is sexual. So “creepiness” is basically a good thing, but don’t overdo it.

No you won’t get rejected

Stop digging your own hole, don’t think about rejection before you got it. Your mind is a very weak when it comes to dealing with women. Don’t let your mind fool you with fear talk. Your mind fears everything, but there’s no reason that you should listen to it. When your mind starts talking nonsense simply decide that you won’t listen to it and act like you don’t hear it. Simple.