Yes, its that time again… You notice a hot, cute girl looking at you from across the room. She’s cute, and she’s looking at you. Now what? You’re confused because you don’t know how to approach women. You are suddenly hit by guilt and shame that you can’t approach her… and then… Then you feel guilty and ashamed for not knowing what to do. She stops looking at you even turns away in disappointment. You now feel like a loser right? Well don’t! Its not your fault! We are brainwashed by society with all these irrational fears and insecurities, so let me show you now how to approach women. Here are some must-read tips:
1) Recognize the fear of rejection for what it is
Unlike many other authors who tell you to just deal with it, and how rejection doesn’t matter, I have some different tips. I actually think the fear of rejection is VERY valid. If you have a fear of rejection, its because your goal or beliefs regarding women are wrong. If you see a woman, and fear rejection, it means your outcome and goals are wrong. Its something that’s in tune with your values.
Solution: Change your outcome to something that can’t possibly cause rejection. Instead of seeing a girl and going “oh wow, how do I pick her up, how do I impress her? how do I say the right thing?”… Your only goal should be “Oh wow, she looks cool, let’s go over there and be social”. Remember, your only goal is to just be social, say hi, and move on. You will find if your only goal is to just be social, and just chat, you will not fear rejection!
2) Make it easy for her
What you might not know is that she’s as afraid as you are! She’s just as confused and scared about how to respond, what to say and how to act. I mean sure, some women are so confident, that the moment you say hi, they smile and start acting like you’re old friends. These women are rare though. Most women are as insecure as most guys. She’s afraid what will other people around think, should she respond, should she play it cool… Should she be friendly or will that make her look easy?
The way you make it easy for her, is that you do things in such a way where you make it easy for her to respond. First and foremost act like you’re an old friend. To all other people in the vicinity it should look like you’re just some male friend of hers saying hi, not a guy hitting on her. This will allow her to relax and just be social. Secondly, you want to be extra positive, and almost too non-threatening. This way she doesn’t feel like you’re a potential danger, and she can just let go and be social.
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