Here is a nice article by some guy who obviously hasnt taken my secret quiz. The article is ok, it has some good points, and you might find it useful if you have already taken the quiz yourself.
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Starting the relationship off the right way is one of the most critical steps in any relationship. It is true that first impressions do contribute significantly to the outcomes of any relationship. Thus, we need to make sure we always have the right start-off in our relationships.
To do that, any man has to learn the art of approaching. Approaching is art and not science. Why is it art? Simply because there isn’t a specific methodology of how it should work. Pick up artists today have their own unique ways of approaching women. Some of them will tell you to go and throw an interesting open ended question with your body language signaling that you are not very interested in the people you are addressing. Others will tell you to do this and that. In reality, the art of approaching has to evolve out of your unique persona in your unique way. It is something that you should figure on your own based on having the right mindsets of the charmer. The ugliest thing you could ever do to yourself is to learn some lines that others say to come off as interesting person to stranger. This is the essence of the ABN Philosophy
With that said, this art seems to be tough and even scary for many people. When you approach someone, as most people do, you probably put yourself in the frame of “approaching because I want something”. That’s far from what charmers would do. After all, we all take any action because of a certain motive, don’t we? Most men get rejected when they approach women because they come with the attitude of “I am approaching you because I want something from you” and women sense that right away and seldom get attracted to them.
Yet men go and approach while trying to disguise their underlying motive thinking it might work. When you approach someone with that attitude, it puts you in a weak and a needy position. Your subconscious mind knows that much more than you do. You start feeling nervous or hesitant about the approach and so you either don’t approach at all or you approach in a way that gets you rejected.
To excel at approaching, one has to work on one single element and that is your attitude and mental beliefs about your relationships and people. At the end of the day, everyone you know as of right now, was a stranger to you at some point in life. Even your mother and father were strangers to you. You had to go through the process of connecting with a stranger. What is stopping you from making other strangers as part of your social circle? How can you break any ice with strangers is the question? It is not about learning cheesy pick up lines and throwing them at others. It is not about learning the 3 second rule where you have to approach before your anxiety builds up. Taking life easy is the best way to approach and charm anyone.
One has to come from a different perspective to succeed at approaching others. In the Attractive By Nature Book, I discuss all the mind elements that the natural charmer has that makes him charm with ease.
