Hey dude, I got another confession here. Its true, I used to be one of those guys too! I used to be completely and utterly unable to approach a woman. I mean you could tell me that you’ll give me a ferrari as a reward if I finally got the balls to talk to one woman… And I still wouldn’t have done it!

Today however… I am at the point where I tend to go out, have a blast fun social night out… And by the time I come back home, I can’t even count all the people I met. How did this happen? Well, I had to go through a certain process of transformation. The bad news is it took me a decade and trying out thousands of different little things. The good news? You don’t have to! In fact, I’m here to shorten the journey for you by showing you only the stuff that works! This is why I invented this site and the quiz yo!

Think about it though – get your mind straight

If you think women would be offended or react badly to an approach… Just think, have you ever had a woman stare at you from across the room? Ever had a woman hit on you or show you interest in some form? It felt good, didn’t it? It didn’t matter if she was your type or if you even liked her at all! Any showing of interest is flattering!

BUT… Why are so many women know to complain about men approaching them, or not liking a certain approach? Well, the main issue is not the showing of interest, but something called CREEPINESS. If a woman dislikes an approach its not because a stranger showed interest! Its because he was either threatening or creepy.

Let me give you an obvious example

Imagine being lost in a foreign town and GENUINELY asking around for directions. Does anyone respond badly? Even the hottest of the hottest women are super friendly and helpful. This is an obvious example of a situation where you’re not likely to be at all threatening or creepy.

Now here’s where the issue starts… Its when you are interested in a girl, and do want to show interest… Its easy to overstep the line and be creepy… But in order for you to not overstep the line, you have to know what is “creepy”. What is this thing that women label “creepy”?

Well its all about the outcome dude

If you see a hot girl and you’re like “Oh wow, she’s so super hot, I must have her now, and oh wow, I am going to go up there and say some things and make her like me… and and make her come back to my house for sex” or “I have to get her number, oh wow, I just have to get her number” —> THIS is creepy.

Women are literally biologically programmed to feel threatened by a guy who has a “backhanded intent”. Like… If he approaches with a goal before he’s even talked to her. Now, for the most part its unjustified, because the guy is simply shy and doesn’t know better. But in her mind, its the same as being a potential rapist or stalker. I know its weird, but you have to have compassion for women’s natural defense systems. They’ve evolved for very good reasons. They’re there to protect her.

So what’s the solution?

Now, from what I said above, I might have scared you away… But fear not, as its really simple! The only thing you have to do is not have a goal other than socializing! I mean, go back to the example I gave you… where you are GENUINELY lost, and you genuinely just want directions – not one single woman will find you creepy.

The same will happen if you GENUINELY only have the goal of just introducing yourself, being social, and getting to know her, with no backhanded intent.

Four exercises to help out

Over the years I’ve developed 4 GREAT exercises that allow even the scarediest, scared guy to approach any girl, anywhere, and get a great reaction. Now, the point of these exercises is to get used to women reacting great to your approach so you get used to women being nice to you. Eventually you want to approach women with an actual social approach, such as introducing yourself. These 4 exercises are just crutches.

1) Hey Maria!! – This is where you see some cute girl on the street… You run up to her and you’re like… “Heeeeeeey maria, how ya been”… When she turns in confusion, you go “Oh, sorry, I mistook you for someone”… About 99.999999999% of women will respond with a huge smile as if though you’d just given them a compliment. Just apologize and leave. This is you getting used to being non-creepy when approaching women and seeing how nice women are.

2) Exit-Compliment – As you’re exiting some place, like say a club or a gallery or whatever… On the way out, just run by a girl and say “I am leaving now, but before I left I just had to say you’re really attractive”… It can be any compliment really as long as its genuine. The key to this one is to genuinely be leaving, and really say this with an “I’m leaving” body-language. Don’t even give them time to respond. Just say it, and leave. What will happen is that the exact moment you start leaving, women will (99.9%) react well and be flattered, some might even follow you! The reason this happens, is that because you are sincerely leaving, you can not have that creepy energy of being a potential stalker, sticking around and just hanging on her.

3) Approach for a friend – This is where a friend of yours mentions he finds some girl cute. You immediately go up to her, and you say “Hey, my friend finds you cute, what do you think? Should I introduce you two?” This works best if she happens to not be your type AT ALL. This way you will genuinely be 100% not-creepy. Almost all girls will be super-friendly to you, and you’ll get used to hot girls being friendly to your approach.

Once you’ve done the three exercises enough many times, you’ll start losing your fear of approaching women!

By now you will have also gained the calibration to how to not be creepy. The trick is not WANTING anything out of HER. Its about not wanting to HAVE her from the very first word. When you get used to this (with those 3 exercises where you focus on something else other than wanting her)… You can approach directly. In this case, you approach with the focus of “I just want to introduce myself, be social, and see what she’s like”. If you two hit it off and it goes into something more, that’s cool. If it doesn’t and you just end up as friends, that’s also cool!

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