Comments on: Are men just as nervous as women are when approaching a female?

By: Bob Jones

Bob Jones — Wed, 05 May 2010 07:17:30 +0000

I think pretty much all of what you wrote. I also think that it’s just easier renting a prostitute than actually chatting up women. These days I still chat up women, because my testicles make me. However, 99% of women are a turnoff, personality wise.

Bob

By: allornothing

allornothing — Wed, 05 May 2010 06:38:23 +0000

Men are never scared, but women are.

By: Ammaliatore paesano

Ammaliatore paesano — Wed, 05 May 2010 06:17:47 +0000

I think everyone has some nervousness to some extent, but actually it’s not the rejection that made me nervous or the fear of that, it was actually the damn awkardness or fear of that from seemingly having nothing to talk about, that thought right there is what actually prevented me from approaching girls for a long time and not rejection.

I don’t mean like starting something up, but like after a subject is talked about and when your ready to continue it and then there’s just blankness, like a conversational block, kind of like writing block maybe. But that just happens with people I really know, which doesn’t mean it’s because I’m nervous with talking to the girl, but because it’s a new girl, the possibility of akward silence or freeze, bothered me, whereas if that happened with someone I knew I didn’t care.

By: curtis h

curtis h — Wed, 05 May 2010 06:12:16 +0000

Men are more nervous and more brave at the same time.

By: john s

john s — Wed, 05 May 2010 05:30:22 +0000

without respect to appearances, one may, in a vulgar way, think of women as falling into two broad categories: brood mares and riding fillies. Each class is interesting in it own right, but only the subclass of the truly intelligent and generally discerning can sober one up and cause him to feel tensely gratified to see an intellectual and personal possibility that he will fear he might lose. This makes him nervous for sure, for nothing is more painful than the disdain of an intelligent woman.

By: Piscean Unicorn

Piscean Unicorn — Wed, 05 May 2010 05:02:11 +0000

Generally, yes, men are as nervous as women when approaching the opposite sex. They may fear sounding too desperate or fear rejection.

By: WSIDR III

WSIDR III — Wed, 05 May 2010 04:30:01 +0000

“Just as nervous”? It is hard to imagine that women are nervous approaching men. It was my impression men would be totally thrilled to be approached, but I’m not a woman I don’t know what things you worry about.

The main thing for me is that I don’t want to approach women who seem like they don’t want to be approached. Growing up in the 80s/90s was a constant reminder of how we men are total jerks for harrassing women and they don’t care for that so we should leave them alone. So if I get any indication women they want to be left alone I leave them alone. This has caused many issues because sometimes women like to play cat and mouse and test a guy’s interest. So this almost always leaves them thinking that I am not interested in them. In actuality this perception is just a result of women being classified as “off limits” due to the persistant anti harrassment propoganda I was exposed to when young.

By: TIM

TIM — Wed, 05 May 2010 03:36:57 +0000

Hey, she’s either going to say “Yes” or “No” (I don’t go for “Maybes”).
I’ve been married for a couple of years so I don’t run into this problem any more but I was never really nervous about approaching a female. They either find me attractive or they don’t. I’ve had some girls approach me. I think that takes a lot of guts but I probably shot down 80% of them (and they can really cop an attitude too) so I expected to get shot down 80% of the time. No harm, no foul.

By: kaydid

kaydid — Wed, 05 May 2010 03:06:09 +0000

yes very much

By: Max Power

Max Power — Wed, 05 May 2010 02:08:24 +0000

Of course men get nervous and it is why some reflect any rejection upon the woman. ie, she must be a lesbo, stuck up or a feminist. Just a coping mechanism. Fortunately, I was not one.

You just try to find the right balance between confident not cocky, cute but not wimpy.