Let me ask you something, but answer me honestly ok? Have you ever felt jealous of guys who seem smooth and seem to know how to talk to women? They’re effortless and just kid and joke around with women without even thinking about it.
Well, the truth is there is NO NEED for you to do this! You can be this guy too! In fact, I can show you how you too can become the guy who finds it effortless to start conversations with women. All you have to do is just follow a few simple tips to make conversation.
1) Ask innocuous questions
The best way to get comfortable approaching and making conversation with women, is to be innocuous. This means you don’t hit on them, or try to win them over. Your only goal is to simply make small talk. The reason this is important is because it relives the pressure from both you and her. An example is you’re standing next to a chick on the bus stop, and you ask her about if the bus is late usually this time. Or you’re standing in the cinema line, and you ask the girl in front of you if she’s seen reviews about the movie. Completely innocent questions with no sexual intent whatsover.
2) Use the old-friends trick
Something that works almost like magic, is the old-friend technique. This where, as you’re starting the conversation with this woman, you actually convince yourself she’s an old friend. You actually imagine you’re talking to a co-worker, a girl you used to go to school with. Anything like that. You will find this makes you more relaxed, come across as more charming and nonthreatening… And at the same time it makes her more relaxed and comfortable to be talking to you. An all-around win win!
3) Keep it social until she goes for more
Your only goal is to have a social conversation. The reason for this is that if a woman has any interest in you whatsoever, she will show signs or start flirting first. You’re only starting the conversation, so as to give her a chance to show her interest if she has it. If she doesn’t show any interest, that’s fine, you just made a new friend. Guess what? Hot women have hot friends! Even if she never moves past the mundane, asexual smalltalk, its not a loss in any way! Next time, you might see her walking hand in hand with a hot female friend. Guess what? You’re now the guy she’s had a fun conversation with. The guy who just said hi, talked, and didn’t push for more. Guess what? She’ll be happy to introduce you to her friend now! And this might friend might actually be all over you. So its always a victory. You lose nothing by waiting for her to escalate to more than social. Its a myth that women don’t make a move first. They do… In fact its always the woman who does the first move towards a sexual path. Its just that she needs an excuse. She won’t start a conversation first, but she’ll always be the first one to steer it towards flirting!
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