I have no idea why this is, but it is. Ever noticed how women always give dating answers in the form of a puzzle? If you ask women for advice on how you should go about approaching other women, the advice will be “Just be yourself”, “Just don’t creep her out”. And you’re like, are you kidding me? Can you get any more vague than that? What does that even mean!
Well, women to a certain biological level, have a biological interest in not giving you the answer. Men need to figure out the answer on their own. Women know exactly what this stuff means, but its a secret they plan on keeping to themselves. This is why you need to learn the secret by learning from guys who’ve learned it before you did!
The Cringe Factor
What women have, on some biological level a built in anti-creep defense system. Their body literally shuts down, and they get defensive. If you want to know how that feels, just remember a time when it happened to you. Maybe it was some salesman that was trying hard to sell you onto something, or someone walked up to you in the street and you could TELL they wanted something from you. I’m sure your body just instantly shut down. You suddenly became guarded, and your entirely body language closed off.
This is what women feel when a creepy guy approaches them. And guess what? Most guys are creepy. The worst part is they don’t know they’re being creepy! In fact, if you approach a woman all creepy, and she responds badly, you blame it on her (or women in general) being bitches. Now, that’s not entirely untrue, because its inconsiderate of her to consider that you too are a human being with feelings, and that you’re not doing it on purpose.
But what is creepiness? What does it come out of? The truth is it all comes out of your outcome and goal. Let me give you an example of a situation that will never ever ever creep a woman out. This example will allow you to slowly start to realize what creepiness is.
Imagine this: You’re in a new city, and you desperately need directions, you’re lost. You see a woman, and you ask her for directions. Does she cringe? Does she respond badly? In 99.99999999999999999999% of cases she will respond well. She will not be creep-ed out in the slightest.
This is slowly leading you to see what creepiness comes out of. Creepiness comes out of a wrong intent. If your intent is ‘Oh wow, cute woman, how do I go and make her give me her number” or “Oh, she’s hot, that’s a nice butt, I wish I could pound it… How do I go and make her give me some?”… If this is your mindset and outcome, it will fail no matter what you do, or how you do it. Unless you’re her exact type, or she’s in a super good mood, she will most like likely cringe and be creep-ed out. Irregardless of what you say, you will come across as creepy.
A much better mindset to have is “Hmm, that’s an interesting, cute woman, I wonder what she’s like. Let’s go there and get to know her, and see what she’s like. If it turns out there’s chemistry between us, that’s a cool bonus. I’m just going there to see what she’s like”. If you do this, you will automatically be yourself, and act in the right ways.
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