How Do I Get More Confidence To Approach Women When I Don’t Have Much Experiance Approaching Them.?

Some dude from yahoo answers had a cool question. Now, its obvious he hasnt taken my secret quiz, but ignore that, and focus on his question, and how I answer it.

Question: I believe i could have more confidence approaching women if I had more experiance, how would you suggest i get more experiance and confidence approaching them?

Answer: Oh, what a great question. I really respect you for asking it. Here’s why… Did you know that most guys CAN NOT approach girls? Its true, but most are hiding it, and their ego prevents them from admitting it so they put this macho persona on…

But really, you do wanna get that experience… And you want to get GOOD EXPERIENCE… You want to get a ton of experience of you approaching women and them being happy and reacting well to your approach, right? If you approach a lot of girls, and they all react like they smelled a piece of dung, that’s gonna link approaching to a negative experience for you, so you wanna avoid that. Here’s how to guarantee getting a lot of GOOD, positive approaching experience:

1) Focus on JUST approaching and getting to know women.

I literally mean this. Do NOT have a goal of hitting on them, getting a date, getting laid… any of that. IF you’re new to approaching and you approach women WANTING something from them, it’ll just repulse them and you’ll come across creepy. You ONLY want to practice approaching and getting to know people. So approach women KNOWING you won’t get anything out of the approach except her name and having introduced yourself. Be super-respectful and super-short at first. Just say something like “Hey, I wanted to say hi, I’m so and so and you guys look interesting”… KEY – you have to act like you’re the manager of the party or a bartender or something like that. You genuinelly have to not want anything more than to introduce yourself and ask the women how they’re doing. If they don’t respond well, you’re doing it wrong.

2) Look for invitations

Women HATE unsolicited approaches. Now, if you’re a grandmaster at approachign women, you can approach any woman, anywhere even if you jump out of the blue and without an invite and she’ll still respond well and be friendly… But that’s a really advanced level, and you don’t want to do that. You want to focus on approaching women who want you to approach them.

So what you wanna focus on… is getting invitations… Walk into a social place and FOCUS on spreading a positive, approachable vibe. Focus on having a super-huge smile, and looking like you’re having fun (chat with and dance with all your friends). If you’re doing it right, you should start getting looks and smiles from women. These are the women you then approach. AGAIN – still apply rule 1… Just because a woman looks at you and invites you, this doesn’t mean she wants to marry you and have 55 of your  babies, lol… You still want to just introduce yourself, and just get her name (NOTHING MORE FOR NOW).

So, focus on these these two strategies, and focus until you’re getting looks everywhere you go and women react well to you approaching them… You will know when its time to move on from this… it’ll generally be a time where so many women will react so well to you, (and you won’t want anything more), that women will literally hit on you and pretty much demand you escalate the situation (by hardcore flirting, them approaching you back and restarting the conversation, etc…). By this time you’ll have such a great experience with women that you will be able to escalate and makes moves on women and have it pass with flying colors.

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