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I am an extremely shy guy and i need help and advice to approach women and not have it be awkward and end in silence any suggestions?
My quick answer to this question:
Yep, the best suggestion I have for you is… DONT put so much pressure on yourself 
– The only reason your conversations with women might end up in akward silences is because you’re trying to hard to have a GREAT conversation.
I have two suggestions… Focus on socializing first of all – like those books on “meeting people”, “networking”, “small talk” etc… And then primarily focus on socializing with EVERYONE… not just girls. If you focus on just girls you like, the pressure in your head will be too big. You don’t have a starting point to go from. The jump is WAY too big from “can’t talk and am shy” to “approaching hot girls I’m attracted to”… You’ll just drive yourself crazy from trying to approach them and failing. So start lower and wider (approach everyone, and approach for SOCIALIZING reasons).
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learn to be confident. learn and observe how you act around the people you are most comfortable with, like friends and family.
try not to be unsure of yourself, i know thats a lot to ask, but try to become a confident person! keep girls interested, know what they like, but dont sound stalkerish haha
most importantly, just be yourself! some girls like shy guys, seriously!
Try asking a buddy of yours to come with you when you approach a girl. He doesn’t necessarily have to say anything, but he can have your back if something goes wrong or if you clam up. Make sure you get across to the girl how special you are, and if you have to have a friend kiss up to them for you, it’s better than seeming standoffish because you’re shy.
A friend can also help with the awkward silences. He can bring up a story about you to, or ask a question that maybe you didn’t think of.
Hmm… It usually helps when you have a group of friends with you. Then you can be yourself and have a great time. Be approachable and outgoing– talk with the girls while you’re having a good time– as friends. Make funny jokes to get them to laugh a little.
Once everything is going well, give them a compliment like: “You know, you have an incredible smile,” while looking sincere and yet still friendly and fun.
Make sure she sees you looking but not staring. If she seems flattered wave or something. Depending on her reaction either give up or walk up to her and say hey. If shes not alone, bring your friends to talk to her friends and kinda distract them. Make a joke, or ask her something, or use some awkward pickup line that will make her laugh. Shy isn’t always bad, better than cocky. Women respect shy guys who make an effort like that. I’m a girl and that’s generally what catches me.
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This kind of stuff can definitely turn your life around. To warn you, there’s no such thing as easy confidence. It will involve a lot of failure, rejection, and hurt feelings. However after a while you become so used to it, and start to see patterns. When you know what works, you can start to use it constantly, and it’s like walking a maze. You just have to know which turns to take.
okay well, girls dont like shy guys . she likes the guy to make the first move. always! and if u c her walking by or something, go up to her and be like hey whatss upp ? or if u guys have an insider together, go up to her. say hey and then say something about the insider or something funny or clever. i know youll think of somethingg. good luck and please answer the question i just posted
go in with the mentality of just friends… takes the pressure off.. you don’t get nervous and makes it so much easier good luck
oh.. don’t be like a brother or too nice.. just a nice easy going guy .. friends lol i hope you know what i mean
first, lose the image thing. thats the worst thing.
next lose the “im gonna marry her” thing
next focus on her words. repeat back her thoughts. that is my best secret.
Next she will make you feel like a man if you are successful.
This trick always works get five 20 dollar bills and give them to one of you friends and every time you talk to a woman you get a 20 back. No one like losing money. Trust me this helps. (u can use 5s or 10s too)
dude talk to them first and get to know them and then they’ll come around. trust me try it. it works
RESPECT IS THE BEST WAY….. AND THERE ARE TONS OF THINGS TO TALK ABOUT ASK ABOUT HER LIKES AND DIS LIKES FAMILY FRIENDS GOALS PLAINS YOU NO
watch the movie “hitch” starring will smith, lots of pointers there.
just walk up and talk to them about something.
smile, say they look pretty or ‘whats goin on?