Some dude from yahoo answers had a cool question. Now, its obvious he hasnt taken my secret quiz, but ignore that, and focus on his question, and how I answer it.
Question: There is a woman who exercises at my gym every day at the same time. I want to meet her. What should I say? How do I approach her?
Answer: Gyms are kinda tricky. Some girls LOVE the idea of meeting a guy at the gym, and others absolutely HATE it… So here’s the BEST advice I can give you. If you want to make sure that the approach goes really well, you shouldn’t be focusing on what to say (even though it is also important). The most important thing for you to focus on, is making sure she wants you to approach her.
And how do you do this? Simple dude, just play the EYE-GAME… Just focus on getting closer, and closer to her (within eye-sight is fine). Find excuses to exercise closer to her, and occasionally glance over at her. Now, don’t change your entire routine just to be closer to her, that is where it becomes creepy. But if you have a choice between machine A and machine B, choose the one that gets you in eye-sight of her… Don’t ogle at her, don’t stare… Just have a FRIENDLY expression on your face… and occasionally glance at her, then continue working out, glance at her… Like you’ll know intuitively how much is just right, and how much is too much.
Do this for like 3-4 days… And if she doesn’t not once return your eye-gaze… Then she’s entirely 100% not interested. Trust me on this, if a girl is even A LITTLE bit interested, she’ll occasionally glance over. Now… If she just glances once, its not a sign that she’s in love with you either, lol, could be accidental. But it means you can test it further. So just look a few more times, as you’re smiling, if she starts doing it more herself (with at least a friendly face), it means she’s open to being approached. It doesn’t mean she wants to marry you and have your childrne, but she’s at least open to a conversation.
So… she’s open ,what do you do? Well, at this point, just go straight for being next to her, like the very next machine, within hearing distance, glance over, smile and nod like… Like saying hi to a friend. She’ll most likely nod too… and this moment comment something about the exercise or the machine. I don’t need to give you examples, you’ll figure it out. Trust me, if she gives you a smile and is all positive to you, you’ll have no problem on what to say, it’ll just come out of you. Its when you’re in doubt that you don’t know what to say.
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Don’t we hate that!!!!!!!!!!!
There is no perfect way.
I have “picked up” women hundreds of times and even as fat and old as I am last fall on a business trip with colleagues I got a woman talking that they thought was drop dead beautiful.
Here is the big secret. Women are people. If you like talking to people you will feel comfortable talking to anyone. If you are afraid of talking to people you will not feel comfortable, it will show and people will blow you off.
I always set my goal to talk. I never set my goal any higher, how would I know if I want to spend time with someone until I talk to them? If the conversation goes well, then it can go someplace else.
Also, just wanting to talk to people removes all the pressure. If the person does not want to talk, so what? There is always another person to “discover”. Talking to people is an unparalleled adventure. Everyone has something interesting to share.
Set your sights on talking to women and getting to know them. Sometimes the conversation ends up in bed and sometimes it ends after about 15 seconds. Usually it ends up somewhere in between and sometimes it ends up in a relationship.
Notice that the women who responded in the positive to this question responded with a “talk to her” answer.
Oh, and show interest in the person you are talking to, not in what you want. If someone just met you why would they care about what you want?
first get on a machine near her and if she catches your eye contact then say hey whats up …that starts a convo…or like i had done to me…this guy just walked up to me as i was finishing my workout adn started talking just saying like hows it going…i see you here alot…blablabla…thats a start…also make sure shes not wearing a ring or leaving with anyone first!! lol GOOD LUCK!
Mmm… I think many girls don’t want to be approahced while being all sweaty and working out. but maybe you should start an accidental conversation, because if you are more specific like saying “Hey Sue, I’ve seen you are getting better” is gonna be pretty obvious you have been checking her out for a while. So keep it simple, maybe start with the typical hello. It’s a nice and simple way to tell a woman “I notice you”, without sounding to urgent.
just drop hints that you are interested
and then wait for her to make a move
Get close to her. Try to flirt with her to show your interested. See how shes responds.
Suggestions: Compliment her on her body (appropreitaly)
Ask her a fitness question
Remember be cool. Dont act desperate!
Like me to spot for you?
Don’t. She is there to work out, not be hit on. A gym is not a nightclub. Many women get sick of getting hit on everywhere they go. It can be quite annoying.
you don’t they like to be left alone. The lobby or hallway is safe. “how’s it going?” wait for answer say “have a good workout” and smile with eye contact and go on with your routine.