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Question: Whenever I see a woman I find attractive that I would like to go talk to, I freeze up. I can’t bring myself to go over and talk to her. I don’t know why this is but if anyone has any advice on how to approach women please let me know. Also any advice on what to say after “Hi” would be great. I am not exactly conversationally dumb, but I get nervous after I say hi and I just make a fool of myself.

Answer:

Dude, I have the simplest and best answer for you. And you see, I’ve spent years and years approaching women, trying every way to approach women, and finding the best way to approach women (a few times actually)… But the best part is I’ve helped a ton of guys learn how to approach women, and start approaching women.

This is why I’ll be able to help you out today… You see, what you need to know is… That if you’re nervous its not because of the ‘way’ you approached. Its something else. You first have to handle your nervousness, and only then will you be able to approach women for the sake of dating them.

What you want to do is to… Get comfortable at approaching girls. And how do you do this? Its simple, just use pure quantity and a change of mindset.

1) Pure Quantity

You need to approach a bunch of women before it gets to be easy, comfortable and natural for you. But its really easy to do… Why? Because here’s the secret, you don’t have to approach them for dating You could just ask for directions, pretend you know them from before, or a bunch of other tricks. In fact, my best suggestion is that you talk to everyone. Get used to starting conversations with everyone… On the bus, on the train, in the supermarket… Whether they are girl, boy, man, woman…

The best technique I know for girls though… Is just run up to them like you’ve known them for years and go “Heeeeey, Maria, how ya been?”… To this she’ll respond with a huge smile and tell you she’s not maria… But the point of this exercise is to get you used to approaching girls and them reacting really great. And 99% of them do.

2) Changed of mindset (quality)

If you’re nervous when approaching women it has to do with your mindset and what you’re focusing on. You want to change this. The best way to feel nervous is to focus on “Oh wow, cute girl, what do I say, oh but… what if she rejects me? But I want to get her?”… Wrong focus! Instead, change your mindset to something much less pressure-creating… Your only goal is to just see if she’s a cool person and touch base – “Hmm, cute girl, I wonder if she’s a cool girl. I’ll go over there and give her the gift of my smile, and see if she’s a cool person or not”. This way there is no pressure on you. You’re not trying to get her or get a good reaction out of her or get a date. None of that… Your only goal is to just start a convo and see what is she like, that’s it!

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