By now, I have been approaching and practicing this thing called “approach a woman” for over a decade! This had led me to this unique knowledge and experience where I am able to see the whole process fro the top down. I can see how it works, why it works, and why do guys not make it work. I was at one time a guy who couldn’t approach a woman even if my life depended on it! I mean an actual girl would be staring at me for 10 minutes straight, literally begging me to approach, and I couldn’t do it! I was literally paralyzed.
Do you have the same fear? Does it scare you to approach a woman?
You might feel shame or even guilt for this. You might think there’s something wrong with you. Let me assure you though, there is not! This is in fact one of the most common male problems. Very few men have this handled. You see, the reason this happens is because of our fears. Its all rooted into the thinking going on inside our heads when we see this woman!
If you want to defeat the fear, you need to defeat those thoughts!
If you actually slowed down, and noticed what it is that’s creating the fear in your mind… You would notice its the pictures or feelings you make in your head. When you see a cute girl checking you out… you most likely start making picture in your head… How you walk up to her, and she frowns… Or you say something, and it fails and everyone laughs at you… Or you imagine how you do walk up, but run out of things to say and its all awkward.
The solution?
1) Changing your mind
You simply spend some time visualizing how all women react well and with joy to your approach. You actually spend some time meditating on how every woman you talk to, she’s happy to be talking to you. She smiles this huge smile of joy and pleasure.
2) Getting experience
Probably the most important thing is proving your mind wrong through sheer experience. You simply get enough experiences under your belt to where it seems like the most normal thing. Now, the key to this is starting off slowly. Most likely you won’t be able to go from never having approached, to approaching 10 hot women a day and asking them out. What you want to do is start with “easy approaches”. This is where you approach a woman just for directions and then say thank you and leave.
If you do these small, nonthreatening approaches you will find approaching women isn’t scary. What’s the worst thing a woman can do to a stranger asking for directions? Just be neutral right? Well, combine this with the visualization exercise and you will find that women actually respond great to you! Visualize that any time you ask a cute girl directions, they are excited and ecstatic! What will happen, is that you will end up doing it in a charming way, and women really will respond like this!
When they do, you’ll start seeing approaching as an easy, enjoyable process. Time to ramp it up a bit. You can now start approaching women just saying hi, I’m so and so. They will respond well for the most part, especially when combined with visualizations. Eventually you can get to the point where you approach any woman, anywhere and they all love it!
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